While I was doing my last closet purge this past weekend, I came across one final garment that needed to be addressed. My wedding dress. There it was; this giant white bag in the hall closet holding a dress that hasn’t seen the light of day in over three years. Honestly, it’d always been in my plan to get rid of it through some means, but I just hadn’t done it yet. This past weekend, I took that bag out of the closet and made the conscious decision to get rid of the dress I got married in.
For some women, I imagine this is a very hard decision to make. Not to get all feminist-y on you, but from childhood, we are constantly barraged with a set of expectations for our future nuptials. “The dress” is such a major part of that. But what’s the expectation when that day is over? Why do I need to keep this dress when all it really is is clutter?
Yes, I called my wedding dress clutter. You know why? (Make way for the cheese, please!) Because our wedding wasn’t really about the clothes. It was about us. When I look at the pictures from that day, I’m not seeing the dress; I’m seeing the stupid-in-love grins on our faces. And, when we got married, we were still in college, pretty much broke, and trying to figure out how to manage this party. To be 100% honest, I bought my wedding dress at a sample sale, by myself, at nineteen. Even though I did genuinely think it was a pretty dress back then, and even now, I picked it because it was there, it fit, and it was almost 60% off.
If we got married all over again today, I wouldn’t pick anything like this. My style has evolved so much in the past three years. I’ve grown up a lot. I’ve figured out a little more about me as a person.
So, this weekend, I’ll be donating this dress. I don’t think it’d sell for much, but maybe it’ll be a special find for some other super short girl out there planning a wedding on a budget. And what will I have gained? Well, you might think just a little extra room. But I think, in addition to the closet space, I’ll be one step close to knowing who I am now and not clinging to the person I was at nineteen.
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